Let’s face it, there are some conversations that are just not easy to have, especially with your children…but how do you tell your kids that you are getting a divorce?! It might not be the easiest conversation that you will have, but here are some ideas that may come in handy if you ever need to have that conversation with the littles.
- Work as one. Parents you should sit down together and explain the situation to your children. The divorce may be a joint a decision or it may not be, try to incorporate the word “we” into the conversation as much as possible. This is not the time for finger-pointing or blame. At the end of the day, it isn’t about you; it is about your children and their emotional well-being.
- Engage with the family as a whole. Having this tough conversation with the entire family present is usually for the best, and then follow up with each child individually. If there is a concern of an older child taking the news hard or that their reaction may upset a younger child parents may want to consider talking to each child on their own.
- Plan out your conversation. This conversation should not be made up on the spot, it should be thought out with specific and important messages that kids need to hear. For example:
- “Mom and Dad have been having some problems. We have tried to work through them, but things aren’t working out.”
- “Both of us love you very much. Nothing could ever change the love we have for you or the fact that we will both always be here for you.”
- “We will always be your mom and dad; we just aren’t going to be husband and wife any longer. We are getting a divorce.”
- “You are amazing kids. It is our fault that this is happening…not yours.”
- “Even with things changing, we will always be a family.”
- Expect mixed reactions. They may cry, yell, run to their rooms or even slam doors. Let them express their feelings regarding the news and be sure to provide them the space when needed and comfort them when wanted. You know your child best, be sure to let them know that you both are available to talk about any feelings or emotions they may feel during this time. Remember their lives are changing in a big way too.
- Questions will be asked. Processing their emotions and feelings revolving the big news will take time to process. Expect your children to have many conversations with them as the separation and divorce continue on. Both parents should be open to answering questions and providing comfort to the children’s emotional needs. Be honest, let them know what you know and don’t know.
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